One of the biggest themes I see with my clients is depletion due to a lack of personal boundaries. What is a boundary? How do we create them? How do we maintain them? Why are they so important?As women we have a tendency to overgive, say yes when we mean no, settle for less than our worth, struggle to identify our needs let alone get them met, and we end up feeling like a resentful dried up empty well. Sound familiar? Typically we find it hard to create boundaries because we don’t like putting up walls, hurting feelings or disappointing those we love. Inherently this comes from a beautiful place. The nature of the feminine is warm, open, accepting, receptive, giving and nurturing. We want others to feel appreciated, supported and loved. However the shadow side is we can forget to create this beauty for ourselves. I have found with my own personal experience and my work with women, that the more we know and honor ourselves the more naturally and effortlessly personal boundaries form around us. We learn how to say no with love. We recognize that our time and energy is sacred and we protect it by sharing it intentionally. We feel confident in our capacity to give what feels good, and drop shame in not pleasing or meeting the expectations of others. We understand that by maintaining a full inner well we have the capacity to maximize our creativity and give from a place of overflow, rather than lack. In my online coaching program Evoke we explore the many ways a woman can expand her capacity and cultivate herself to fill her well so that she feels clear, strong, full and juicy from the inside out. What is your current relationship with boundaries?
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